we deserve:
an unabashed play party
in person on saturday, march 29
7p-11:59p
venue revealed to ticketholders
we deserve joy. we deserve pleasure. we deserve decadence.
we deserve ponies, puppies, pigs and playthings.
we deserve the space to be our unabashed selves... and we deserve this play party.
we couldn’t wait until october, so we’re throwing a queer af play party in (y)our honor.
PLEASE READ THE WHOLE PAGE BEFORE FILLING OUT THE PRE-PARTY AGREEMENTS
what’s the vibe?
we’re trying to keep it simple: this is just a play party. no workshops, no discord, no organized pre-meetups, no collective work shifts*, no meals. just a kinky play party for queer folks.
that said: unabashed spaces run more smoothly when everyone feels empowered to take care of themselves, each other, and the space as a whole. so if you see something that someone should do, you could be that someone - it’s in the spirit of unabashed to help out.
*we are looking for experienced Dungeon Monitors (DMs) who would like to work for an hour during the party. you will receive free entry in exchange for this labor. additional training will be provided on our equipment and rules. after successful completion of your shift, we are willing to provide a DM reference for other venues on request. please email us if you would like to DM.
what’s the dungeon setup?
we deserve is a sex-positive space. we are not offering a no-sex play space at this party.
we will have a large dungeon with approximately 17 stations, and a smaller dungeon off to the side with approximately 4 stations.
seating for many different bodies will be available in all spaces.
how many attendees?
no more than 190 people will be in attendance - so about 60 fewer people than at unabashed.
how will i find people to play with?
we will be using our usual wristband system:
white means go! people with white wristbands are open to talking, including about play.
yellow means slow up! people with yellow wristbands want to be the ones to start conversations about play, but are open to talking otherwise.
pink means stop! people with pink wristbands either don’t want to talk or want to be the ones to start conversations.
as always, please be cool if blind/low-vision people ask you about your wristband color.
will there be a meal?
we will not be offering a meal at the party. we recommend making a plan to eat beforehand.
coffee and tea will be available, and you’re welcome to bring your own snacks.
is the venue ADA compliant?
this venue is ADA compliant. there is a ramp leading to/from the front door, and a small lip on the back doors that we haven’t heard reports of troubles with.
if you need additional accommodations, please email us.
will there be a sensory space?
we will not be able to guarantee an away-from-it-all sensory space. you will be able to step outside to get some air in a quieter outdoor space that’s private to the event, weather permitting.
clothing must be street legal any time you are outside of the building.
pre-party agreement form
ahead of getting your tickets, you’ll be asked to fill out a pre-party community agreements form.
even if someone else is buying your ticket for you, every attendee needs to fill out this form.
you’ll affirm that you know what you’re getting into and that you meet the following requirements for attendance:
you are or will be 18 years of age or older by the date of the event;
you identify as queer/LGBTQAI2S+ (this is not for gatekeeping; if you’re queer, you’re queer enough);
you consent to shared agreements regarding behavior and accountability.
once you submit this form, you’ll be emailed a link to our ticketing site to purchase your ticket.
complete the pre-party agreement to view the ticketing link.
here’s what to expect when you buy tickets:
sliding scale
as a part of our work to make unabashed financially accessible, we’re using a sliding scale for ticket prices. we trust you to know what price works best for you, but if you’d like some guidance, click the image to the left to enlarge it. another way to put it:
$10 if you have a need, no questions asked
$25 for general admission
$50 if you want to help us make this and future events accessible to everyone
*please be mindful that if you purchase a ticket at the lowest end of the scale when you can afford the higher ticket price(s), you are limiting access to those who need financial flexibility.
(image used with permission from the work of Alexis J. Cunningfolk)
legal name
we do ask for your legal name - the name that matches the one on your ID - as a part of the ticketing process. this is solely to confirm at the door that you are 18+. we will never use this name otherwise. we will greet you by the name you put at the top of the form.
if you’re buying for other folks too, make sure you put their legal name on the same line. comma separation is fine, ex. X Xington, Y Yschild. (This does mean you’ll have to either check in together or make sure the other person knows to check in under your name.)
general info
we make sure that you understand that failing to follow mandated health orders or event policies will result in expulsion from the event with no refund. we also get more into this in the waiver.
**waiver
we do need all of the usual waivers and releases ahead of the party - certifying that you know what’s up, that you’ll take care of yourself, and that you take responsibility for your actions at the party.
you will receive a link to the waiver once you purchase your ticket. every attendee individually needs to sign the waiver.
every attendee must fill out their waiver.
this is the vital last step in the ticketing process.
other things to know:
scholarships
we do have limited, fully-funded scholarships available. to request a scholarship:
complete the pre-party community agreements form and
send us an email (with the words we deserve: scholarship request in the subject line) requesting a full scholarship. (you don’t have to justify your need*.)
once you have completed this, we will be in touch.
*while we trust you to know what you need, please be mindful that if you ask for a ticket at a more discounted rate when you can afford to pay one of the tiered prices, you are limiting access to those who need flexibility.
waiting list
if necessary, we are equipped to have a waiting list for folks to get tickets. we’ll email you directly to let you know if tickets become available in the order you sign up.
refund policy
if you can’t attend after purchasing a ticket, you have options. we offer:
— a full refund (minus platform fee) through February 28th;
— a 50% refund (minus platform fee) on and between March 1st and March 14th;
— no refunds on or after March 15th.
tickets are non-transferable - meaning you must provide the names of those attending at purchase, and those are the people that must attend under those tickets. you cannot gift or resell your ticket(s) to others after the fact. after the refund cutoff, you may choose to donate your ticket back to the party, and it will be distributed as a scholarship ticket for someone who would not otherwise be able to attend. get in touch if you need to request or discuss a refund or donation.